It can be very lonely in the world of gay dating. Many men only want a physical connection and when you're looking for true intimacy it's not always easy to find someone who cares about you as a person as well as wants to spend the night.
Then there's the bi-curious guys that want to run out the door as soon as their finished.
How Do You Find a Healthy Balanced Gay Relationship?
Here's a few of my top strategies for building a great gay relationship on a firm foundation.
He's Gotta Be Gay - If he isn't gay, you're going down a treacherous road. Talk about how long he's been gay. Ask him when he came out. Find out what his parents thought about it. Talk about your relationships with men and find out how many he's had. If he isn't gay it should show when you start talking about real gay issues.
Work Out - How you look physically will determine to some extent how lucky you are at attracting men. A well chiseled physique will have more boys coming after you. Of course there are some great guys who care less about looks, but you might as well attract them all!
Play Hard to Get - Don't get sexual on the first date. I know that men have huge problems with waiting. If you're serious about having a longer lasting sexual relationship with a man, make him wait before you get in bed with him. Enjoy a few hours of making out spread over a few dates before anything further progresses.
Meet More People - Go to more gay activities. Go clubbing, attend parties at gay friend's houses. Be social and get to know the people you meet. If you meet more available guys, your chances for finding the perfect guy is going to be a lot higher than if you stay home lonely.
Go Online - There are more tools now for gay men to connect than ever before. If you know which ones to use, you can have instant luck with gay dating services. Some are scams, so you'll want to find people who have successfully used them and then you'll get lucky to. If you have an iphone, you can even find gay guys within miles of where you're at 24/7.
The bottom line is to use common sense. A serious relationship won't be built if there isn't a real connection and serious trust. Many people are only looking to hook up physically, but it can damage your self esteem if you are too promiscuis.
Of course it can also be a lot of fun to just hook up with guys randomly from time to time. After all we all have needs. If you do it responsibly, you can have a lot of wonderful experiences with a lot of cool and attractive guys that you'll remember forever.
Then there's the bi-curious guys that want to run out the door as soon as their finished.
How Do You Find a Healthy Balanced Gay Relationship?
Here's a few of my top strategies for building a great gay relationship on a firm foundation.
He's Gotta Be Gay - If he isn't gay, you're going down a treacherous road. Talk about how long he's been gay. Ask him when he came out. Find out what his parents thought about it. Talk about your relationships with men and find out how many he's had. If he isn't gay it should show when you start talking about real gay issues.
Work Out - How you look physically will determine to some extent how lucky you are at attracting men. A well chiseled physique will have more boys coming after you. Of course there are some great guys who care less about looks, but you might as well attract them all!
Play Hard to Get - Don't get sexual on the first date. I know that men have huge problems with waiting. If you're serious about having a longer lasting sexual relationship with a man, make him wait before you get in bed with him. Enjoy a few hours of making out spread over a few dates before anything further progresses.
Meet More People - Go to more gay activities. Go clubbing, attend parties at gay friend's houses. Be social and get to know the people you meet. If you meet more available guys, your chances for finding the perfect guy is going to be a lot higher than if you stay home lonely.
Go Online - There are more tools now for gay men to connect than ever before. If you know which ones to use, you can have instant luck with gay dating services. Some are scams, so you'll want to find people who have successfully used them and then you'll get lucky to. If you have an iphone, you can even find gay guys within miles of where you're at 24/7.
The bottom line is to use common sense. A serious relationship won't be built if there isn't a real connection and serious trust. Many people are only looking to hook up physically, but it can damage your self esteem if you are too promiscuis.
Of course it can also be a lot of fun to just hook up with guys randomly from time to time. After all we all have needs. If you do it responsibly, you can have a lot of wonderful experiences with a lot of cool and attractive guys that you'll remember forever.
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